GUARD YOUR HEART!!!

The heart is the organ in the chest that sends blood around the body, usually on the left part of humans. The heart is a place in a person where feelings and emotions are thought to be especially those connected with love. The heart is an important part of the human body.

            To guard your heart is to be very careful and prepare your heart in case of danger; it is to watch and protect your heart from any danger. For instance a soldier is someone in the army; they protect and guard their territory (barrack) at all times. They are always at alert in case there is any danger. Also, a boxer is always on guard (in a position to defend himself).

            As ladies, we should always guard our heart, some men are like wolves in sheep clothing, they come to us pretending to be a sheep but end up destroying us like a wolf will destroy its prey. We need to be vigilant and careful.

            We need to always be on guard, many men out there believe that the direct access to ladies is to find a place in their heart. They understand that we are emotional and they know when they get to our heart, they can defeat us. They speak nicely to us and try to tell us lovely things, they throw some unnecessary questions at us and sometimes we fall for them.

            Let us remember that our heart is not a toy that should be played with, it is a part of our body that needs to be handled with care. If we do not guard our hearts, we will end up going from one relationship to another. Do not allow anyone to sweet talk you into doing what you don’t want to do. Be at alert like the soldiers at the war front, be careful what you hear or listen to because the ear is a direct route to our heart, be careful what you watch, don’t allow anyone cajole or mislead you.

            Some talks are cheap, if you give away your heart carelessly, you will end up losing it prematurely, this will make you unstable emotionally and you know it will go a long way in affecting you psychologically. Guard your heart with all jealousy, be the Author of your heart, decide what goes in and comes out of it. Don’t allow your emotions to be tampered with. GUARD YOUR HEART!!!

YOUR MORDECAI

Hi ladies, today I want to enlighten us on the need to have a Mordecai. I am sure the name Mordecai rings a bell. Recall the story of Esther in the Bible

            Esther became a queen not because she was only pretty, not only because she was very intelligent, not only because she was outstanding among the maidens, not only because she was humble but because she had a Mordecai.

            According to the book of Esther,  Mordecai was Esther's uncle but he raised her as his own daughter for she had neither a father nor a mother. Mordecai gave Esther the support she needed when she was in the Kings palace before she became a queen. He gave her instructions, monitored her and urged her not to reveal their plans to their relations. Mordecai kept checking up on Esther's welfare everyday to see how she was fairing in the king's palace where all the maidens where kept.

            Though Esther was an intelligent lady, she was calm and submissive enough to understand and obey her uncle Mordecai. She put herself under his authority. Even when she became the queen, she didn't stop listening to her uncle; she didn't show any sign of pride, she was still respectful and submissive.

            As ladies, we need to be under the authority of someone. Remember when we were young, we were under the care and authority of our parents, when we grow up and get married we will be under the authority of our husband, because regularly as ladies we need to be submissive to someone who will guide and guard us at all times. But there is a period when we are not under anyone's authority, the period when we are far from our parents and the period when we are not married. At this stage, we need a MORDECAI who will guide us and put us through. 

            Do not get me wrong, I do not mean a Mordecai like a boyfriend oooo, I mean a Mordecai like a mentor, a Mordecai like a role model (either a man or a woman), and you have to be careful when choosing a Mordecai. Your Mordecai can be your pastor, a trusted relation, a friend indeed, someone who is more experienced in life than you are, someone who can correct you when you are wrong, and someone who will guide you and help you grow.

            Submission is mandatory, you need to be submissive and open to whosoever you choose as your Mordecai, you need to be attentive, always listen to him/her/them and accept their corrections with joy. Imagine if Esther had not obeyed Mordecai, what do you think would have become of her and her people. Recall also, the story of Ruth and Naomi, imagine what would have happened to Ruth if she didn't follow the instructions of Naomi.

            We all need a Mordecai because at every stage in our life when we are faced with challenges, our Mordecai puts us through and help us to overcome our challenges. God uses our Mordecai to pull us to the top. Do not choose anyone whose life doesn't glorify God as your Mordecai because it is very dangerous. Your Mordecai must be Spirit filled and must have the fear of God.

            In case you already have a MORDECAI, obey him/her/them and follow their instructions but in case you do not have one, you need a Mordecai. GET ONE

HIS LOVE FOR GOD MATTERS

God is the creator of all things; man, animals, plants, non-living things and everything you can ever think of.

            According to John 3:16, God loves us so much that He gave us His only begotten son, His son Jesus Christ came to the world to die for our sins. Greater love has no man than this that a man gives up his life for his friends. (John15:13)

            God’s love is unconditional, His love doesn’t demand for sex nor material things, His love doesn’t fade, His love is everlasting. Falling in love with Him is the best thing that can ever happen to a man. Loving Him is so sweet.

            Ladies, it’s sad that we have diverted all the love we are meant to have for Him on our fellow human most especially the opposite sex. This is not supposed to happen. God should have a special place in your heart. No man should take God’s place in your heart. Always ensure that GOD COMES FIRST in your life, with this you will be guided to make the right decisions because HE lives in you.

            Ladies are emotional, we are easily moved by some certain things, though most times we don’t show them but inside of us we know what we are thinking of. We fall in and out of love easily. Most times we fall in love with a person’s appearance and fame instead of the real person. Many times it’s difficult for us to understand what we truly feel for the opposite sex.

           Sometimes ago, I spoke to my mentor about someone I have affection for. I explained to him that I really like the guy and he said to me “Loving a guy is not a criteria that he is the chosen one for you”. Many times, we choose our partner based on what we feel and see, some of us even have the picture of our ideal man, but when our so called ideal man comes and we start a relationship with him, we end up breaking up because we just can’t cope with one another. My mentor always says every perfect guy is not meant for the best girl, God always have a better choice for us. Though his choice sometimes doesn’t fit into our own picture but his choice is always the best.

            Does that guy really love God? If a guy doesn’t love God and the things of God, then he cannot love you, if he doesn’t have the fear of God then he can’t love and respect you. So I thought within myself, how do you measure a person’s love? How do you know if a person truly loves God? Some cunning guys can pretend and show you that they love God but deep in their heart, they know they are not real.

            Only a man that loves God will know how to treat a woman right. Only a man who loves God can have the capacity to love a woman dearly. Only a man that loves God with his life can be guided by God to love a woman. Only a man that loves God will be able to tolerate a woman because women can be difficult at times. A man who doesn’t love God cannot care, appreciate or love what God has created i.e. woman. Let’s look out for that man who is after God’s heart. Prayer is also an important key to consider. I pray God will open our eyes to see that man who really loves Him. His love for God matters. 

STEPPING OUT OF YOUR TERRITORY

A Territory is an area that one person, group, animal etc considers as their own and defends against others who try to enter it. A territory can be likened to your home, a town, country and immediate environment.

            Stepping out of your territory is leaving your immediate environment, your home or country to another different location/ place entirely. Many times, stepping out of one’s territory could mean danger for the person in question. Before you can step out of your territory, you must be fully guarded or prepared to face the challenges outside your territory.

            Our territory is always the safest place to explore all our characteristics. As a young lady who grew up in a disciplined home, you see other young ladies in your school and you ask yourself “why am I different, why can’t I be like them”. Your parents do not allow you visit friends, you are not allowed to expose your body, you are restricted from watching certain TV stations and you keep asking yourself “why am I being treated like a stranger in my home”. Your brothers’ question every guy they see around you, you are to always observe your quiet time, your phone is always checked and you are always being monitored. You feel you need some space.

            Guess this was exactly the way Dinah, the daughter of Jacob in the Bible felt and then she went out to see the daughters of the land and she got raped by the son of Hamar (shechem). I am very sure, she liked what the other daughters of the land were doing and she wanted to make friends with them, she left her territory (father’s house) and got raped in the process.

            Many young ladies out there have fallen victim of so many unheard situations because they left their territory. For instance, a lady who left her territory to visit a 2go friend and was ganged rape by five men.

            Stepping out of your territory is very dangerous. There is time for everything. A lady should only step out when she is ready and fully guarded. When men are going to war (stepping out of their territory) they guard themselves with Armour and shield so they won’t get wounded in the process of fighting. How guarded are you? Even within your territory, you need to guard yourself….

            You can guard yourself by setting some rules and not going against it, do not get carried away easily, know the kind of company you keep, do not trust every one completely because they might be a threat. Do not step out of your territory unless you have been fully guarded. Do not visit unknown men because you want to make friends, if at all you have to go, go with someone reliable, do not choose the wrong company of friends because you don’t want to be intimidated, build your self esteem.

            Finally, I urge you my fellow ladies and sisters do not step out of your territory until you are fully guarded. I LOVE YOU ALL

THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE ADDRESSED

Sometimes we get very angry with the way some guys address us. Some ladies insult guys in return when they can no longer contain the insults. But before we start raining abusive words on those guys let’s check ourselves. How do we dress? I know that if some of us are given the opportunity, we will wear bikini to our offices and even wear only under wears to the market.

Let me ask you, have you seen a mad person before? maybe in Home Videos... Am sure you know how a mad person dresses. It’s really not because the mad person doesn't have something to wear, it’s actually because she has a mental illness. A mad person can decide to walk around naked; this is because the mind of that person isn't working normally.

            But look at you, God has been good to you. You are sound and you are not mentally ill. So why dress like someone who is sick all in the name of fashion. Why expose sensitive parts of your body because you want to attract the opposite sex. Let me tell you a simple truth, it is not until you expose all your body before a man gets attracted to you.

            The reason why some men address us anyhow is because of the way we are dressed. If you dress like a harlot or prostitute, you will be addressed as one. If you dress decently, you will be approached in a decent manner.

  You can be simple and elegant in your dressing. Exposing your body reduces your value. Dress well so that you can be addressed in a good manner......CHEERS

VIRGINITY

A virgin is a person who has never had sex, a person with no sexual experience. Sex is a physical activity between two people in which they touch each other’s sexual organs which may include sexual intercourse.

            Virginity is a state of being a virgin. Back in the ancient times, Ladies/girls are disciplined in a strict way. The African culture demands that a lady remains a virgin until she gets married. A lady who cannot hold herself was advised to get married. Well that was then.

            Civilization has taken place now and things have changed. Virginity is no longer in vogue. People now engage in sexual activities without any feeling of guilt or anyone correcting them.

            To the ladies, I really want to say that we should keep ourselves and remain a virgin until we get married. I believe there is time for everything. I understand that some ladies are not longer virgins due to some reasons. I know that some were raped or molested when they were young and they lost their virginity in the process. But I will like to say that this is not enough reason for you to now involve yourself in diverse forms of sexual immorality. It won’t help you instead it will destroy you.

            To some ladies who claim that they are virgins but engage in series of sexual activities with the opposite sex but do not allow penetration. The only thing that qualifies them as a virgin is their hymen which has not been broken. I ask a question what kind of virgin are you? FAKE ONE I GUESS

            The Bible says that our body is the temple of God. Only clean things are laid on the temple of God. No filthy things are allowed to be placed on it. Only pure things are laid on it. If your body is truly God’s temple, you won’t allow anyone to feast on it or experiment on it.

           Do not allow any past incidence about how you lose your virginity to affect you. Move on with life by keeping yourself. Do not give any man opportunity to defile you or use you. Do not sell your body in exchange for money thinking you don’t have anything to lose. There is no crime waiting. Wait for the right man. A right man won’t ask you for sex or touch your body if he truly loves you. Abstain from any form of sexual sins.

            Note that men out there want to marry decent women. They want a woman with a high moral standard to be their wife and the mother of their children. Never think that being a virgin is a disease. Sex is worth waiting for. Don’t allow any man to steal your pride away from you with cheap words. YOUR VIRGINITY IS YOUR PRIDE; YOUR BODY IS GOD’S TEMPLE…             

OPENNESS

Openness is the quality of being honest and not hiding information or feelings. It is also the quality of being able to think about, accept, and listen to different ideas or people; the quality of not being confined or covered.

            Ladies, let’s be sincere to ourselves here. Majority of us are not open. We have trained ourselves not to talk, share or listen to people especially same sex and this is affecting us. Remember one of the previous posts titled SCREAM OUT. How many of us have been able to scream out?

            Pride goes before a fall and many of our ladies out there are falling due to pride. We believe so much in ourselves that we are so confined and covered. We do not speak out or share our issues with fellow friends. We have groomed ourselves to keep quiet in every situation.

            Being open doesn't make you cheap, instead it makes you know more; it enlightens you and increases your knowledge on different situations. Using myself as an example, in the past, I thought being open was something bad because I always feel that people will always take advantage of me because of my kind of person. But now I know better. Being open has given me an added advantage of learning things from people around. Many people confide in me because they know am not confined in my ways. I have been able to learn from others due to my openness.

Many ladies out there are dying inside, they are hurting. They are scared of being betrayed by people. Let me tell you, if you confide in someone and the person betrays you, it gives you the opportunity to know that the person isn't

worth being a friend. But when you are open, it creates an avenue to know more about people around you. It helps you to also amend your ways through the things you learn from them. Never under estimate anyone because the person whom you think you can’t be open to might just be the person who has the solution to that problem.

            Many ladies have committed suicide due to some bitter experience they have encounter in their relationship. This is because they conceal the problems in their heart. They refuse to share their pain. When their heart can’t contain it, they feel committing suicide will help.

            I believe we are matured enough and we should know that in the process of being open, we should not accept every advice. We should learn to discern. Some advice can ruin one’s life so we should be very careful. So we should be able to make right decisions. Also let it be that people whom we confide in are people who will be of great help to us; people who are matured in thinking, people whose lives can be used as good examples in the society. Do not be misled in the process of being open. BE OPEN AND BE WISE.