OPENNESS

Openness is the quality of being honest and not hiding information or feelings. It is also the quality of being able to think about, accept, and listen to different ideas or people; the quality of not being confined or covered.

            Ladies, let’s be sincere to ourselves here. Majority of us are not open. We have trained ourselves not to talk, share or listen to people especially same sex and this is affecting us. Remember one of the previous posts titled SCREAM OUT. How many of us have been able to scream out?

            Pride goes before a fall and many of our ladies out there are falling due to pride. We believe so much in ourselves that we are so confined and covered. We do not speak out or share our issues with fellow friends. We have groomed ourselves to keep quiet in every situation.

            Being open doesn't make you cheap, instead it makes you know more; it enlightens you and increases your knowledge on different situations. Using myself as an example, in the past, I thought being open was something bad because I always feel that people will always take advantage of me because of my kind of person. But now I know better. Being open has given me an added advantage of learning things from people around. Many people confide in me because they know am not confined in my ways. I have been able to learn from others due to my openness.

Many ladies out there are dying inside, they are hurting. They are scared of being betrayed by people. Let me tell you, if you confide in someone and the person betrays you, it gives you the opportunity to know that the person isn't

worth being a friend. But when you are open, it creates an avenue to know more about people around you. It helps you to also amend your ways through the things you learn from them. Never under estimate anyone because the person whom you think you can’t be open to might just be the person who has the solution to that problem.

            Many ladies have committed suicide due to some bitter experience they have encounter in their relationship. This is because they conceal the problems in their heart. They refuse to share their pain. When their heart can’t contain it, they feel committing suicide will help.

            I believe we are matured enough and we should know that in the process of being open, we should not accept every advice. We should learn to discern. Some advice can ruin one’s life so we should be very careful. So we should be able to make right decisions. Also let it be that people whom we confide in are people who will be of great help to us; people who are matured in thinking, people whose lives can be used as good examples in the society. Do not be misled in the process of being open. BE OPEN AND BE WISE.