THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE ADDRESSED

Sometimes we get very angry with the way some guys address us. Some ladies insult guys in return when they can no longer contain the insults. But before we start raining abusive words on those guys let’s check ourselves. How do we dress? I know that if some of us are given the opportunity, we will wear bikini to our offices and even wear only under wears to the market.

Let me ask you, have you seen a mad person before? maybe in Home Videos... Am sure you know how a mad person dresses. It’s really not because the mad person doesn't have something to wear, it’s actually because she has a mental illness. A mad person can decide to walk around naked; this is because the mind of that person isn't working normally.

            But look at you, God has been good to you. You are sound and you are not mentally ill. So why dress like someone who is sick all in the name of fashion. Why expose sensitive parts of your body because you want to attract the opposite sex. Let me tell you a simple truth, it is not until you expose all your body before a man gets attracted to you.

            The reason why some men address us anyhow is because of the way we are dressed. If you dress like a harlot or prostitute, you will be addressed as one. If you dress decently, you will be approached in a decent manner.

  You can be simple and elegant in your dressing. Exposing your body reduces your value. Dress well so that you can be addressed in a good manner......CHEERS

VIRGINITY

A virgin is a person who has never had sex, a person with no sexual experience. Sex is a physical activity between two people in which they touch each other’s sexual organs which may include sexual intercourse.

            Virginity is a state of being a virgin. Back in the ancient times, Ladies/girls are disciplined in a strict way. The African culture demands that a lady remains a virgin until she gets married. A lady who cannot hold herself was advised to get married. Well that was then.

            Civilization has taken place now and things have changed. Virginity is no longer in vogue. People now engage in sexual activities without any feeling of guilt or anyone correcting them.

            To the ladies, I really want to say that we should keep ourselves and remain a virgin until we get married. I believe there is time for everything. I understand that some ladies are not longer virgins due to some reasons. I know that some were raped or molested when they were young and they lost their virginity in the process. But I will like to say that this is not enough reason for you to now involve yourself in diverse forms of sexual immorality. It won’t help you instead it will destroy you.

            To some ladies who claim that they are virgins but engage in series of sexual activities with the opposite sex but do not allow penetration. The only thing that qualifies them as a virgin is their hymen which has not been broken. I ask a question what kind of virgin are you? FAKE ONE I GUESS

            The Bible says that our body is the temple of God. Only clean things are laid on the temple of God. No filthy things are allowed to be placed on it. Only pure things are laid on it. If your body is truly God’s temple, you won’t allow anyone to feast on it or experiment on it.

           Do not allow any past incidence about how you lose your virginity to affect you. Move on with life by keeping yourself. Do not give any man opportunity to defile you or use you. Do not sell your body in exchange for money thinking you don’t have anything to lose. There is no crime waiting. Wait for the right man. A right man won’t ask you for sex or touch your body if he truly loves you. Abstain from any form of sexual sins.

            Note that men out there want to marry decent women. They want a woman with a high moral standard to be their wife and the mother of their children. Never think that being a virgin is a disease. Sex is worth waiting for. Don’t allow any man to steal your pride away from you with cheap words. YOUR VIRGINITY IS YOUR PRIDE; YOUR BODY IS GOD’S TEMPLE…             

OPENNESS

Openness is the quality of being honest and not hiding information or feelings. It is also the quality of being able to think about, accept, and listen to different ideas or people; the quality of not being confined or covered.

            Ladies, let’s be sincere to ourselves here. Majority of us are not open. We have trained ourselves not to talk, share or listen to people especially same sex and this is affecting us. Remember one of the previous posts titled SCREAM OUT. How many of us have been able to scream out?

            Pride goes before a fall and many of our ladies out there are falling due to pride. We believe so much in ourselves that we are so confined and covered. We do not speak out or share our issues with fellow friends. We have groomed ourselves to keep quiet in every situation.

            Being open doesn't make you cheap, instead it makes you know more; it enlightens you and increases your knowledge on different situations. Using myself as an example, in the past, I thought being open was something bad because I always feel that people will always take advantage of me because of my kind of person. But now I know better. Being open has given me an added advantage of learning things from people around. Many people confide in me because they know am not confined in my ways. I have been able to learn from others due to my openness.

Many ladies out there are dying inside, they are hurting. They are scared of being betrayed by people. Let me tell you, if you confide in someone and the person betrays you, it gives you the opportunity to know that the person isn't

worth being a friend. But when you are open, it creates an avenue to know more about people around you. It helps you to also amend your ways through the things you learn from them. Never under estimate anyone because the person whom you think you can’t be open to might just be the person who has the solution to that problem.

            Many ladies have committed suicide due to some bitter experience they have encounter in their relationship. This is because they conceal the problems in their heart. They refuse to share their pain. When their heart can’t contain it, they feel committing suicide will help.

            I believe we are matured enough and we should know that in the process of being open, we should not accept every advice. We should learn to discern. Some advice can ruin one’s life so we should be very careful. So we should be able to make right decisions. Also let it be that people whom we confide in are people who will be of great help to us; people who are matured in thinking, people whose lives can be used as good examples in the society. Do not be misled in the process of being open. BE OPEN AND BE WISE.