I keep wondering why we young ladies fall
in love with men who do not match our kind of personality. I realize that
ladies tend to release their emotions to whosoever is giving them attention…
As a young lady, I can say that it is very
possible to fall in love with someone you do not know or see often. This only
happens due to our emotions… we are emotional beings…I say to myself often that
if God didn’t create women to be emotional, many of us will not be
submissive…most times its because of what we feel for our partners that makes
us obey them and submit to them. God is indeed very great.
I realize that the moment we start getting
attention from the wrong person we get carried away easily…we begin to use
words like “oh he swept me off my feet”…. Our heart is fragile so we believe
people easily, most especially the opposite sex. Sometimes we give in to them
so easily without considering the adverse effect of our emotional actions.
I can sincerely tell you that I have loved
so many wrongly in the past. Loving the wrong person won’t make you realize the
presence of the right person because the only person you see at that time is
the wrong person.
Women love blindly, a lot of us love to a
fault. Many times, we do not see
anything wrong in the person we are in love with. We follow them obediently
like a sheep will follow the shepherd. Majority of our young girls/ladies today
are victims of loving wrongly. The ones who are quick to realize they are in love
with the wrong person pull out quickly while the ones who do not realize this
error end up getting married to the wrong one.
Such marriage will only be full of regrets
and words like “oh had I known”. I do not blame the ladies who fall in love
with the wrong one because no one is above mistakes. I can write about this
today because I have been a victim of loving wrongly. I understand that
sometimes many ladies try to endure the pain and adjust to the relationship at
their own expense, this is indeed very dangerous.
HOW DO YOU RECOGNIZE THE WRONG MAN
** A wrong man is a man who makes you
unhappy most of the time… you are seldom happy whenever you are around him..
** A wrong man is a man who complains,
nags, quarrels and fights with you whenever you are with him…he is never
satisfied with what you do…he is never pleased with you.
** A wrong man is a man who doesn’t see you
in his future, whenever he talks about the future, you are never in the picture…BEWARE
** A wrong man is a man who cannot share
his plans with you, he doesn’t see you as a great asset, and he doesn’t see
anything good in you.
** A wrong man is a man who sees you as a
sex tool when you see him as a husband. All he is after is your body and how he
can take pleasure with it.
** A wrong man is a man who is not
interested in knowing whatever you are going through emotionally, financially,
physically and psychologically
** A wrong man is a man who sees you as an
option. He is only with you because you are meeting some of his needs.
CONSEQUENCES OF LOVING THE WRONG ONE
** You end up hurting everyday of your life…..when
you are not happy in a relationship, you become very sad and sorrowful.
** You end up disturbed, destabilized and
wrecked emotionally….
** You end up closing your heart to people
come afterwards because of the pain you went through with the wrong one
** You may end up missing the right one
during the period of engaging in a relationship with the wrong one.
Note that men are professional actors… you
have to be very careful when dealing with them. Some men do not actually show
signs that they are the wrong ones until you have gotten so deep with them.
My advice: take your time, do not be in a
rush, take it slow and steady, study him, test him, and provoke him to know his
temperament, ask questions, study and read his moods whenever you are with him.
Learn to think deeply and do not take things for granted.
I conclude this article with this: Always
set the Lord God before you in everything you do. He alone is able to see
clearly a man’s heart. Go before Him in prayers and present every matter before
Him.
I understand that most times we (ladies)
could have pleased ourselves by listening to our minds before consulting God
but I say it is never too late to pull out of every wrong relationship. If you are
involved with the wrong one, pull out now before it is too late. Ask God for
wisdom and I know He will direct you.
If you are already married to the wrong one…
ask God to forgive you and help you mend your marriage and your ways. Pray to
Him to touch the heart of your husband. Remember God hates divorce.
In all dear sisters, we should not allow
our emotions to cloud our judgments and choices in deciding on relationships…Thanks
for reading. I care.
