A story of a young girl whose
life changed after a painful experience; I know that we have different
categories of ladies. There are some who have already taken pain as their
lifestyle and have refused to learn, there are some who intentionally go
through pain for selfish reasons while some have allowed the pains they go
through to change their life and make them better women.
“I will always get away with all I do, who says I can’t
eat my cake and have it at the same time, it my time joor” these and more were
Sade’s reply to her friends.
Sade a young lady in her early
twenties embraced the rough part of life and got addicted to it. She really
loves to explore and hang out with friends. She was never scared of getting
into trouble because she believes she can never have any problem in her dealing
with people especially the opposite sex.
The social network exposed her more as she made new
friends (mostly guys) and was ready to go out on dates with them. Although she
has heard stories about girls visiting guys they met on social networks and
getting into trouble such as being raped or being killed but she was so
confident that such can’t happen to her.
On this fateful day, she received a call from a family
friend who resides in Lagos. The conversation went thus:
Sade: Hello good evening
Caller: Good evening, please am
I speaking to Sade
Sade: yes please who am I
speaking to?
Caller: it’s me Bayo
Sade: Bayo!! Which Bayo please
Caller: well Bayo, Mrs Adeoti’s
son
Sade: OMG!! Am so sorry, didn’t
know it’s you, how are you and how is everyone over there.
Bayo: we are all fine, it’s
been a while, I collected your number from someone close.
Sade: well that’s great but
hope all is well, the last time I saw you, I was still in secondary school
(junior class) at that.
Bayo: well, you are right and
am sure you must be a big girl now
Sade: chuckles, if you say so
Bayo: I would really like to
say, I have a busy schedule here in Lagos, if you don’t mind can I invite you
over to my place one of these weekends.
Sade: hmmm, it’s alright I will
come
Bayo: really, that will be
great, can’t wait to see you again.
Sade: smiles
Bayo: thanks so much, allow me
call you back later please.
Sade: it’s alright, take care
Bayo: ok, bye. Talk to you
later
Sade: Bye
Hmmm…just like that, Sade agreed to go to Lagos,
immediately she dropped the call, she starts thinking about what she will tell
people around her, so they won’t discourage or stop her from going. She is very
good at fabricating stories so before long, she came up with one.
Bayo called back and fixed the
next weekend for their visit. Sade agreed but instructed Bayo that none of her
family members must hear about it since she won’t be going home and he agreed
without any objection.
Sade got to the pack to board a bus going to Lagos, her
hearts beats continually, but her mind was made up; though something tells her
she was doing something wrong. When she got to Lagos, she was able to locate
the house easily. She was warmly welcomed by Bayo who has gotten everything set
to welcome Sade. She saw very happy. Of course that’s what she likes.
Sade dropped her bag and freshened
up; she ate and then decided to have a conversation with Bayo to be sure of why
he invited her over. As she conversed with Bayo, she noticed that his eyes were
running all over her body and he was always trying to move close at every
opportunity. He told her how beautiful she is and that the reason why he
invited her over was because he wants to start something serious with.
“I am not getting any younger and I need a decent and
intelligent lady, I have searched but I believe you are the perfect jewel for
me, I have always admired you since you were in secondary school and I know you
will be a wonderful mother to my kids”. Those were his words.
As Sade was about to utter a word, he touched her lips
and carried her to his room.“Wait, wait, stop let me say something”, it was
already late, he pounced on her like a hungry lion who has just found its prey
and he had sex with her. Oh my God, Sade was crying inside, how can this happen
to me?Why did he do this?she couldn’t cry out because it was late. The deed had
been done.
She thought within herself, I shouldn’t have come. The
following day, she begged Bayo to get her a pill so she won’t get pregnant
because she wasn’t sure she was safe. Sade returned back to school that same
day and couldn’t tell anyone what she went through, she had earlier said she
was going to redemption camp, so she just lied and said the program was fine.
Weeks after Sade added a lot of
weigh, she became very uncomfortable, most of the time, and her friends teased
her about her weight. She was now becoming scared. She was waiting for her
monthly period to prove her pregnancy thoughts wrong but her period delayed.
Some days later, she spotted for just a day, she became
very worried, and why was her period not flowing? She couldn’t help it so she
got test strips and did a pregnancy home test only to find out that she was
pregnant. Her head rang, what will people say about her? This can’t be
happening; she didn’t know who to run to; she was shaking and sobbing quietly.
Two days later, she was at a hospital. The doctor did
necessary tests and told her she was 1 month and I week pregnant. What will she
do, she was very scared. She had never aborted before but she has heard a lot
of stories about abortion and its pains.
The doctor pointed at a door
and asked her to go in. she went in sluggishly and stood. “Remove your pants”he
said, she did and he showed her where to lie.
The doctor brought out sterilized instruments and asked
her to spread her legs wide open and be calm. She was shaking and sobbing. As
the instruments entered through her virgina, she screamed, the pain was
becoming intense; tears flowed freely down her eyes; she felt like she was
going to die because the pain was unbearable.
She couldn’t call any name, she stared at the roof of the
room, then she remembered how she has messed up her life in the past months,
risking her life and being careless with it. She began to scream “OH LORD HAVE
MERCY ON ME; AM VERY SORRY”
By this time the instrument were going in and out of her
and she felt her back was about to be crushed. Some minutes later, the doctor
told her, he is through and that she can stand up; that was when she realizes
that she was still alive. The doctor helped her to stand up and gave her pills
to use.Immediately she got out of the room, the nurses at the reception were
all saying sorry to her. She couldn’t smile; her eyes were wet with tears.
She left the hospital premises promising God that she will
never go back to sin again. She lost her first baby. A very painful experience
for her;When she got home, she realized she was bleeding, she was scared to
death. She was really in pains.
To some of the ladies out there, I understand that some
have faced worse things than Sade,while some have not gotten to this level but
are treading the path. Some have passed through fire and have been burnt beyond
recognition. But the most important thing is that one should learn from these
experiences.
It was her first visit. Her first visit to the guys place, her first to the hospital for an abortion. The first visit can be your
last visit if you are not being careful, the first visit can destroy your life
and it an even lead to death.Some people’s life has been totally shattered due
to a first visit. BEWARE.
whatever you are doing now and you know it is not right, whatever you are doing and you know can destroy your life...stop in time before it is too late...lastly let us all learn from our mistakes...
